Daily Rituals

This was going to be a piece about healthy foods…but then I thought, “there are probably about a bajillion of those…so no.” Humans beings are creatures of habit; rituals are the ways we spend our everyday. Whether we spend 4-8 hours of it working or whether we make a specific ritual out of sticking needles in cloth dolls slightly resembling someone – it is a ritual all the same (don’t actually do that last one). :/

Typically one rises in the morning time and will have their coffee, or tea, or…whatever you have…maybe some breakfast and HOPEFULLY a shower. Wake yourself up and start out positively. Listening to music 24/7 always helps me, but I know we can’t always do that. The morning is obviously the best time to plan out the rest of your day (cuz you can’t really do it in the evening) unless you do it the evening previous…then you’re what we call an “over achiever”. Or just a businesswoman/man.

Even though this isn’t a piece on healthy foods, this part is about healthy rituals: Being healthy seems like one of those fads that you read about in the magazines in line in the grocery store – because you do. But really – it isn’t a fad! Diets are fads. And a misuse of the actual definition of diet, btw, I digress. Honestly, everyone already knows that becoming a healthier human resides in the ritual of choosing to eat “healthier” foods, regular exercise, and staying motivated. That last one is the pits for me. I am no good at that. I love eating healthy foods and exercise can be really fun! But I am no good at wanting to do all that if I am just not that stoked to do it.

SOME people don’t work…ahem. Thus, these people (I mean myself of course) have all day to bask in their morning rituals. Oh and I do. In the morning I wake up around the time that the boyfriend is going to work, I spend some time with him before he leaves for the day, and then see him off. I make myself about a gallon of coffee (or warm up whatever I didn’t finish the day before) and come to sit at my glorious coffee table. I love my coffee table; although it is old, and undoubtedly beyond repair. It is an oval drop leaf coffee table with a thin layer of leather pressed on top of it. We thought it was all wooden because it has what looks like a golden inlay around the edges, but if you EVER spill water on it – you just wipe up brown leather. I DIGRESS. Cue coffee, then I slightly open the blinds to let in a little sun, put a vinyl on the record player and plug it into the boyfriend’s soundbar so that I can blast that bitch. I have to consume roughly 2-4 cups of coffee before I can even think about “starting” my day.

Some people have cleaning rituals, things they do before they clean. My own personal cleaning ritual happens annually. I get the serious cleaning bug about once or twice a year (if I’m lucky) and I tornado clean everything – with coffee in hand. It’s kinda like being told to do something right when you were about to do it; “Well, now I don’t wanna…” that’s the feeling I have most of the time. Some days I get lucky as an adult – and I clean like the dickens. I should say that has yet to happen in my new apartment. Although today I cleaned a ton of dishes, and made brunch for the both of us without too much effort or any assistance. Yeah, I’m gonna pat myself on the back for that.

Many of us have our own unique writing rituals that we follow when we sit down to write our pieces. Many of you have it all together and planned out a month in advance what you’re gonna write about a day at a time, some of you maybe take a weeks out approach. And some of us plan our pieces the night before like rushing to finish homework. Others write the day of – our pieces requiring little to no research or background work. Despite how we plan our posts, our rituals are how we sit and ready ourselves for the write. I try to always sit in a more secluded place, with headphones (& music) on. I look over my outline for my piece, and the research I’ve done on the piece (if required), and with a deep breath and a clear head I begin to type. Sometimes it doesn’t flow so easily, you know? You know. So I use a tactic I was taught when I wrote in AP style in Journalism; just start typing paragraph by paragraph, no particular order (you can rearrange that later). Getting your ideas down is the most important part (especially when you’re on a deadline).

Rituals are a part of every culture; participating in them is usually very intimate to the person and activity. What are some of your unique rituals?

If you read my last blog, you still have time to be the winner of the Passion Planner giveaway! Don’t waste time – the giveaway closes at 8pm Eastern

Have a goodnight.

Passionate Planning

Towards the middle of January 2017, my mom encouraged me to invest in a Passion Planner. Fortunately there was a sale going on at the time (we’re those people who only ever buy things on sale; if they aren’t, we go without.) It was a 50% off sale! So I indulged.

My justification being that, now that I am out of school and looking for work, making appointments all the time (and hopefully having interviews every other DAY), that this purchase would be extremely beneficial.

Before making my purchase, which was last minute (we’re also those people), I did a little research about the Passion Planner. Not only do they have good information/ideas on how to use the planner on their own website.

http://www.passionplanner.com

They also have YouTube videos with great suggestions

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=t46Bemvsjcw .

I learned that the organizational ideas came from founder, young entrepreneur, Angelia Trinidad. The Passion Planner came from her need to organize her life in such a way that other agendas didn’t provide. So she made her own. Trinidad knew that others needed a lifestyle/planner based on goals and positiveness, instead of just a “To-Do” list. One of the first pages in the Passion Planner is the “road map”, which is supposed to help the user stay on track throughout the entire Planner.

One of my favorite things about the Passion Planner, one “tip” which was mentioned in the video I linked, is the fact that there is less structure to this agenda. As Trinidad said, it may be intimidating to those who are used to structure; however, it is slightly liberating to be able to just…do whatever the fuck I wanna do! Not to mention if I miss a day or two (or a week) because I haven’t been keeping up – why waste that week’s page, when I can just write in the dates of that current week without skipping and wasting trees?! This also applies to months. Nothing is marked; as the video says – you fill in the blanks. This planner could last you a very long time!

I like to keep the monthly and the current week pages available to flip back and forth between, I have them clipped together for ease.

Recently I drew on the front of the Planner with a gold Pen-Touch liquid pen. I traced the lines of the things that mean the most to me: the Walkman, the bike, the coffee mug, a star, a cloud the palette and paint brush, and the pencil at the very bottom which leads up to all of the stenciling (the picture cut off some of the things I colored in). It was an interesting experience, also liberating, because I was afraid the gold liquid pen wouldn’t dry on the leather-like material, so I had to do a test area, small and inconspicuous. Also, the pen wasn’t as fine-point as some of the areas that I wanted to color in – but I did my best, and I am happy with it. Embellishing it made it more unique and more my own. 🙂

The Passion Planner suggests that you spend a few moments planning your day,or planning the next at the end of the day. Even if it’s not a Passion Planner that you use, having an agenda can help with time-management, calming stress, and peace of mind.

Hopefully I’ll get better at it, and be able to use it more efficiently. It has been a great investment.

I’m Drowning.

On my second cup of coffee at 1:54 pm. I don’t even know what I am doing here any more. There are times I get lost in the music I listen to or Netflix, but truly, I am chasing – running away from the thoughts that leave me cold and empty. Mundane things like organizing, and reading are no longer tasks that bring me joy because my mind flows towards darker places.

It’s silly, I think, that I’ve held on. I should just put it out of my mind and move on. I am no longer motivated to do the things that need to be done and I want to resort to uglier ideas.

There is a plant on my desk that has no water. I can see the life being drained from it daily; it dies along with my heart. As much as I think to water it every day, I look at it and then look at myself and am just glad that I am getting out of bed. I can at least check one thing off of my list.

I look at my tassel from my cap and I don’t feel overwhelmed or proud. It brings no sense of accomplishment because the bigger part of me that was there, the part that I took for granted the entire time, is now gone.

I look out my window and wonder if I’ll ever get another chance to make things right. It hurts my heart to know that I hurt someone else – and that this is not the first time.

I’m drowning in my emotions, but my insides feel like they have been carved out.

Music For Your Mind.

Sit back, put on your headphones find a favorite song or artist and have a read.

I listened to some of my favorite oldies today – not like The Beatles or Journey “oldies” more like, the songs that brought back strong emotional memories.  Memories only I would ever know of and understand the meanings of. The Nitty Gritty Dirt Band’s Mr. Bojangles came on my playlist this morning and immediately brought tears to my eyes for what reason I mostly cannot explain, but I do know that I spent a great deal of time with my dad trying to learn how to play Mr. Bojangles on the piano when I was very young after listening to it on constant repeat for the majority of my childhood.  He would want me to sing when I could not play, and I would want to play and him to sing at other times. I always wonder what songs like those were written about: songs that seem to have lots of little details and go on forever. Was it a true story? That might make me cry even more. 

I think that you can fall in love with a melody in an instant. You know you’ll always love it, and remember it, even search for it just to hear it one more time (I have gone to record stores and hummed numerous tunes to old guys just to find music that I wanted to buy – this was before Google, obviously). But I think that if you’re truly in love with a song, you can never get tired of it. You listen to it over and over again. Break it down verse by verse, word by word – hopefully understanding the artists meaning – and then again separating each instrument and listening to each note. Appreciating every silence like a calm before a storm, awaiting the best part of the song. 

Then I asked myself some questions. I’m sure most of you have wondered the same things – 

“Why do songs sometimes take me back?” 

“If you haven’t heard a song in years the neural tapestry representing that song stays purer and the song will evoke stronger specific memories of a time and place from your past.” Memories connected to over played songs become diluted because the neural network is constantly being updated. Listening to music highlights specific brain regions linked to autobiographical memories and emotions activated by familiar music (more so even than verbal prompts). This has even been demonstrated in small studies where familiar music has elicited strong responses from participants with Alzheimer’s disease.  Author, Petr Janata, who worked on the study said, “…it calls back memories…you can see the association between music and memories…”

“Why is it that sometimes I feel sad when I listen to some music, and other times I listen to “depressing” music and don’t feel sad at all?”
Perceived vs. Felt emotions:
This explains why some of us enjoy listening to sad music, and it does not depress us. We don’t form a true emotional attachment to music because we know it cannot actually put us in real harm, therefore “we can perceive the emotions presented” in the music (like creepy horror music), yet not really feel the emotions for ourselves.

“Why do I prefer some genres over others?”
The music we listen to is linked to our emotions. Using an MRI, neurologist Oliver Sacks was able to show how “different types of music activates the brain at varying intensities”. Sacks listened to two composers known to be of the same genre one he loves (Bach) and one he doesn’t like as much (Beethoven), allowing himself to reminisce – marking the places where his emotions ranged. Afterwards, looking at the MRI scans, Sacks says they do correlate with his true emotions “his brain was far more aroused during the Bach piece than the Beethoven piece”.
“Why does music make us feel the way we do?”

The best part about music is that no matter the genre, it is so universal it can give everyone so many different emotions! Depressing minor chords for when someone needs a sad and healing moment, popular catchy repetitive measures for cleaning or for exercise, uplifting notes for motivation when you’re on the road to recovery, or even many unexplainable emotions all at once. Music has a synchronized effect on people’s brains, no matter the emotion you feel. Music stimulates “regions that are involved in movement, planning, attention, & memory”

The Motor cortex and the Cerebellum allow our bodies to process movements; damage to these areas would tragically mean the inability for a person to keep rhythm, play an instrument, and have steady movements in general.

The Prefrontal cortex handles a persons expectations, satisfactions, planning abilities and organization.

The Hippocampus converts short-term memories to long-term memories; aiding in developing memory and has a hand in quite a few other pathways as well.

“Why do certain types of music change the way I feel?” 

Music is associated with enjoyable activities; parties, relaxation, sleep, or being active in general. Research has found that listening to music releases high amounts of dopamine, the “feel good hormone” – which is released during other pleasurable activities like eating food, or having sex. People use music the same way they would a drug: come home and reach for some Music to relax you, make you depressed if that’s what you’re looking for, or even motivate you. A lot of the times you already know just what songs to look for.

Studies: Kids, Adults, Exercise, & Intelligence
“Does Learning About Music at an Early Age Really Make That Much of a Difference?”

One study showed that learning music or how to play instruments as a child does more for you than one may think. It can,

  • help auditory discrimination (fine tune your hearing)
  • help fine motor skills (hands, mouth, etc. coordination)

Surprisingly, music training at a young age also helps with non-verbal reasoning skills, involving understanding analyzing visual information (identifying shapes and patterns). Audio and visual pathways cross in the brain and often rely on each other, especially in musical training.

“Is It Possible to Help My Other Senses Just by Listening to Music?”
A study has concluded that “…in stroke patients, improved visual attention was shown while listening to classical music”.  I agree with Cooper, it is very interesting that music and/or noise can affect other “senses and abilities – in this case, vision”.

“Can Music Increase My Stamina?”
According to a study done in 1911, cyclists pedaled faster when listening to music than in silence. Why? Because the presentation of music to the brain competes for all other attention. Music can help us override those signals of fatigue, keep us going longer, “stronger”, even use our energy more efficiently. Finding the “right tempo-to-workout intensity” can help us exercise more efficiently by counting the bpm and letting ourselves fall into stride, effectively, also saving a person more oxygen.

Feeling, not Intelligence
Studies have shown that whether listening to classical genres or preferred genres, children or adults preformed better on tasks after listening to preferred music (which was more arousing and made them feel good), rather than a genre that was not preferred. These studies were done mostly to debunk the bandwagon-myth that parents are jumping onto about playing “smart music” for your child while young or even still in the womb. The results show that the tasks were completed accurately, to the best of a participants ability based on the way they felt after hearing a pleasing sound; whether that pleasing sound to one person is heavy metal or indie music. The study breaks the myth of  a stereotyped”classical” music being linked with intelligence.
Evolution: “Did music help humans evolve?”
So, once upon a time humans were cave men, right? And eventually humans became apprised of their ability to bang sticks, clang the metals they had or blow air over strung-together grasses. What good did it do them? And why on Earth did they continue to make these noises? Were these noise makers so useful that we continued to make them, how did it even get this far? We now make instruments, recording equipment, even different genres – why do we continue to play on?

“…no matter your musical preference, music is unifying” Daniel Levitin, psychologist studying neuroscience and music at McGill University says that music led humans to social bonding & improved fitness (which all makes sense).  Other researchers say that music helps to teach babies to learn languages, aides in memorization, knowledge or history (word of mouth stories/songs), even possibly to help people stay awake during shifts while watching for predators.
“How Much of the Brain Is REALLY Used to Process Music?”
It was concluded in a Finnish study using fMRIs that “listening to music activates wide networks of the brain…reveal[ing] complex dynamics & the way music affects us…” While listening to a piece of music rich in structure, the fMRI shows that music completely lights up the entire brain! Meaning humans use all cortexes & the majority of their brains to process music, not just one to two little areas.

Wow. Do you still have questions about how music is interpreted by the brain? Were my questions similar to yours? 

Music is a sacred part of my life. I dedicate a lot of my life and time to it, and still – there is a void that needs to be filled with MORE MUSIC. The best part of music is that there are so many complex things going on in my brain just to interpret it, that it will always stay a blissful mystery to me as to how music is truly broken down, no matter how much I am in love with it.

 

Wondering more about how your memories are connected to the music you love? Take a look at Christopher Bergland’s article, Why Do Songs From Your Past Evoke Such Vivid Memories?

Want to learn more about music and how it effects your brain while doing some of the things discussed in this blog? Follow the link provided to Belle Beth Cooper’s article, The Surprising Science Behind What Music Does to Our Brains.

If you want to learn more about how music acts like a drug, and some pretty interesting studies, check out ‘s article, This Is Your Brain On Music: How Our Brains Process Melodies That Pull on Our Heartstrings.

Long Lost Art of Dying

Your heart lunges for then. For that time. They have become an artifact. “I’m dyin’ without you, but it’s teachin’ me to live.” You’re trying with every ounce of strength you have everyday just to move on. Knowing that once you can forget, there will be peace. Paradise.

It was paradise then. Living like you did, the way you both loved. It wasn’t easy being together; you had to stay. “You can’t be that close to somebody without being so far apart”

-Inspired by Eyedea and Abilities “Paradise”